In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Counting Voices.”
A lively group discussion, an intimate tête-à-tête, an inner monologue — in your view, when it comes to a good conversation, what’s the ideal number of people?
Nothing beats the feeling after having a good conversation. Whether it’s an intellectually challenging debate, a personal heart-to-heart, or just a simple chit-chat, a good conversation will always leave a resounding impression. Funny, isn’t it, how a simple exchange of words can foster great ideas, catapult dreams, or even soothe the little storm in your heart.
But what exactly makes a good conversation? Based from experience, a good conversation is one that is simply fulfilling. You find the answers to what you’re looking for in another person, you may find comfort, some sort of profound meaning, or something simulating. Even if you don’t find what you’re looking for, a good conversation will fulfill you to a certain extent and will make you want to keep searching, keep conversing, until you reach your closure. That being said, how many people does it take, ideally, for a good conversation?
Personally I don’t get involved in group chats. I rarely engage in conversations in a large group — not that I dislike it, but I tend to take the back seat and observe. I might chime in a word or two when I deem it necessary, but otherwise I like to observe people when they are talking. I pay extra attention to the little things, like their gestures, their tone, or their facial expressions. I guess this had made me a little more sensitive to people in conversations, and maybe that’s why I prefer private and personal conversations more. Yes, have had one or two good conversations in a large group, but at most it’s hard to converse properly. There are many voices, many ideas, many feelings — and the conversation can get easily out of hand. I’m a private person, so I like my conversations to be intimate — over a cup of iced drink or after a meal. I mostly have one-on-one conversations, and understandably, those conversations were the most fulfilling.
I even find a simple soliloquy can be fulfilling. A personal monologue with your own self is the most intimate conversation you can ever have — there, you don’t need to hide anything and you are true to your own self. There is no need of pretense or unnecessary small talk, you present yourself to yourself as you are. Does that make sense?
What I’m saying is that a good conversation is a good conversation, regardless of the number of voices chiming in. You might prefer having a couple of friends over or a rendezvous over dinner… or even write yourself a diary of thoughts! In the end, a good conversation is truly and simply what you make of it and what you get out of it.